Mind Evolution

Taste Bonding

It was the birthday of a close friend last January 26 and since this is the closest weekend, we celebrate it today.

My friend has a habit of visiting places that offers a bunch of delicious meals and desserts as well. And the next time we have to meet, we would try it together.

This weekend, we had yogurt at Pinkberry where they offer an easy wonderfully tangy, not-too-sweet, creamy cloud of perfect frozen yogurt deliciousness. I had a combination of green tea and pomegranate that goes with 4 toppings - - cookies and cream chocolate, mango, kiwi and waffle cookie. Though, I wont recommend waffle cookie. My friend chose green tea and watermelon without toppings. We both opted for medium size. Each flavor tasted as delicious as it looks.

After the mass, we decided to have dinner at Mom & Tinas, where she already tried some desserts before. It was located at Legaspi Village just at the back of Greenbelt. We had a short walk from Greenbelt. There were only few customers inside. When I looked around, I noticed a country-style and homey environment. we both ordered pasta, chicken and spinach lasagna for me (I super like the creaminess and cheesiness) and pesto for my friend, which served with 2 muffin like bread. We shared the mango kani salad with Japanese mayo, its an eggspread-like dressings. I am a small frequent eater, after we shared the salad and consume the 2 breads, I felt full. After 1/3 of my pasta, I said I cant finish it, I was not able to eat anything more and I would just take home the rest of the pasta, which I did. I will make the judgement of it by tomorrow morning.

I enjoyed it, the yogurt and the dinner. Adequate serving and good value for money.

Well, we’re like that, give us something sinfully sweet and delicious and we’ll call it heavenly. We almost have the same taste buds.

We are not just there for each other for good and bad times, but we were also together with several places and different dishes. And we are looking forward for more adventures and perishables to try.

Happy Birthday Gurl. Wish you all the best. And thanks for the fab dinner and dessert, super yummy.

It doesnt matter what we are having and where we are. We could be having coffee at 24 hours convenience store but we could always feel that we are at Starbucks. Its always like we are eating at a first class restaurant, as long as we are at the company of someone we like to be with, that’s all to it.

To Be or Not To Be

I’ve been watching a local talk show awhile ago and their guest ask one of the female host if there is more she cant do considering her versatility. The host answered “to be a mother”.

Well, if that question was thrown at me. My answer will be the same. The host has her reason and I have mine too. I cant be a mother. To be a mother, you should be a wife first. And I dont think I am a wife material…lol. Dont get me wrong here, I’m not intimating that marriage is a bad idea for everyone out there. What I am saying is, it is not for me, perhaps I am just a girlfriend material? Or probably, there are some women who are really acceptable as a girlfriend, but not really quite the ticket when it comes to getting hitched? Or maybe God wants me to be content where he puts me.

Given an opportunity to leave again, I will choose the same life. Happy to be leaving the life I have now with interesting people around me and having share of dynamic experiences on the side.I know what I need to do.

Am I wrong for thinking that? Walang basagan ng trip

Kung Hei Fat Choi everyone!

Wat U C, Wat U Hear, Liv it Hir!

Is your memory big enough to keep those things you did in your past years? Did you share to someone all your experiences? Or some things you rather kept a secret and just cherish it alone.

As human beings, We all have secrets, ones that we keep and ones that are kept from us.

There are things about us that no one else knows. Sometimes those things are pieces of our lives that we haven’t shared yet.

There are times that We have laughed and joked, talked about everything that mattered in our lives but still there are things that we don’t know yet with the other person.

We haven’t shared because we don’t know if the other person will understand us or it will be risky or embarrassing.  We are afraid that if they know the “truth” about us, they’ll think less of us.   

We all have secret lives, and we see in each other pretty much only what we’re interested enough to see.

Ironically, when we share, it brings us closer together.  It creates a bond of intimacy that connects us at a deeper level.  By knowing more of us, we experience more of our humanity.   We seem more “real”. We become more authentic.

The most touching or shall we say “revealing” conversations we have will completely changed the nature of the relationship we have with the other person.  It will happen because we choose to share and understand.

Memory loading!!!!

How naughty are you?

Boys will be boys! Every boy goes through the stage where they experience a period of time for sexual awareness and self discoveries. Along with sexual maturation and development, a wide range of emotional changes also take place.  Some boys go through this period very easily and for others it can be very exciting and amazing experience.  It generally occur between the ages of nine and 16 years of age, but this can vary considerably  from person to person.

Men tend to be far more visually oriented than women,  that’s given. Sexually, reading isn’t going to be what  younger boys wants. They may do it out of curiousity, but it is probably not going to satisfy their desires to ogle pornography, because most likely porno is what gets them off.

Young boys tends to  drool with girls even to the extent of really doing the works. If a girl bends down regardless if they are wearing pants or skirts, boys have the attack of Wandering Eye Syndrome.  If girls panties show, you can expect that boys to be staring with their tounges hanging out. They love the show.

They are anatomically curious young men that  are interested to watch the naked bodies of the girls from the tiny peep-holes they made. Once their hormones kick in, the plumbing gets certified, and they are driven by customer satisfaction. At this point, the fascination is still a separate entity from the sexual drive, but as the young boys start to venture off on their own and start having opportunities to address that innate curiosity , they start learning how to deal with the hormonal influences.The fascination and curiosity they are experimenting within the family circle.

Normally, they have this called male bonding that can keep a secret for achieving this monumental  felonious mischief of their lives. They have the willingness to share their discoveries with their peers. They can even swore an oath of absolute secrecy that if word were to get out, it would be the end of their greatest opportunity had experienced. No one must know what they have to do. There must be no verbal communication. Absolute quiet is necessary for success. All discussion to be done by hand signals. They can feel an almost uncontrollable joy if they see girls walking around in varying degrees of undressing.  Since they are hidden, they could look at the girls as long as they wanted. For married men, it said that just because you bought your meal, doesn’t mean you can’t look at the menu!

Absolutely normal for boys unless they’re dead or gay! Ethical, no! It’s only human curiosity to want to see the opposite sex naked. If nudity were normal, we wouldn’t have a lot of the social stigma we have today.

The better informed they are, the better they will be able to cope with their sexuality without  feeling guilty about it, and the more open and sensitive they will be with their future partners.  There’s no shame in wanting more out of life. 

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Girls, it doesn’t hurt to know that a guy likes our body, does it? But that’s different story for next time.

New Sunshine

I read somewhere these 3 New Year’s questions and I’d like to start my New Year’s blog by answering these questions. You may also want to post your answer, your responses will follow you through the year. Here it goes:

1. How you celebrate New Year’s Eve?
2. Who is your dream kiss at midnight (given an opportunity)?
3. What (if any) are your resolutions?

As for me, I started  out New Year’s Eve the same way I did every year. But on second thought, I realized that every year, I celebrate New Year differently. There was a time that I was out of town with a cousin, another one I was on duty and one time I was on a boat travelling from the province. This year had to be different, somehow.

I attended the New Year’s Eve mass at 8:30pm and got home around 10:00pm. My cousin gave us pasta,  caldereta and pesto bread. We don’t have any extravagance food on our table…just fruits, chips and champagne. My folks were already at the province so it was just me and my 3 siblings who were passing around the microphone for our videoke time while waiting for the clock to strikes midnight.  At 12 midnight, we  lighted our altar and stood at our terrace and watched the fireworks. It was fun though and simple. Surprisingly, we all slept at 1:00am despite the noise outside which ended around 4:00am.

Who would I kiss? Why, a certain vampire, of course, though I’m happy to pucker up for crazy jerk as well. but I’ll tilt my head back for my hot and horny babe any day. But really… all I’ve ever wanted to was to gaze into the eyes of the man I love. To smile. Then to kiss him passionately.

One of the traditional every year is New Year’s resolution. But then, according to Eric Zorn,  making resolutions is a cleansing ritual of self assessment and repentance that demands personal  honesty and, ultimately, reinforces humility. Breaking them is part of the cycle.

As far as resolutions go, I’m pretty bad at  keeping them. This year my goal is to get serious about my weight. I do have some GOALS for the year however. I want this year to be more different. I want it to be more exciting, life changing, and above all…  want to look to a brighter future.

With the advent of new year, a new era begins and with it comes new hopes and new possibilities. Every year teaches us some of life’s most important lessons, and with that learning we put our step  forward into the new year.

They say…

Early birds catches
… the worm”

Sila na lang

Di naman ako
kumakain ng worm eh…

Tulog ulit ako…

Gigising na lang ako
pag chicken na ang ulam!

Christmas Wish

   Did Santa stopped by at your house?

We were asked this question by our friends when we were a kid. And without hesitation, we would be excitedly nod our heads. Specifically, some of our best memories as a child were  created on Christmas morning. We went to bed with one eye open, only to close both within minutes.  Next thing we know, it’s 5:30 am! And as a child, we think, “he must have come, it’s morning!”

And you get up, look under our Christmas Tree and there it is. A huge pile of gifts. Some say from our parents. But the big ones, they say “From: Santa.” How exciting was this? And we remember how much fun I was having. How much that, in that moment, we were happy. Truly, happy.

Today, if we found these mysterious gifts under our tree that said “From Santa,” it might as well be a  bomb. Questions fly through our minds. How did it get there? Who is it from? Why is it wrapped so perfectly? As adults, we lose our imagination because shit happens. Things get in the way of our belief in the  beauty of life and the holidays.

I love Christmas to this day. The family and the whole spirit of Christmas make this holiday my favorite. Speaking of….I missed again the visit  to Meralco Christmas Village. But even so, I miss Santa Claus. I hope Santa wont missed my house

Merry Christmas everyone! Have a blessed holiday.

Hustle & Bustle

Christmas! One of the most celebrated times of the year. Complete with love, excitement, laughter, and don’t forget gift giving. We can hardly think of a Christmas without Gifts. A lot of people are looking forward for this season most especially because of the parties and gift giving.

The tradition of giving gifts in this season owes its origin to the Magi who came from the east of Jerusalem to greet the Babe in the manger with gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. The Magi were wise men and their gifts were emblematic of tribute, worship and death - of Christ considered as King, God and the sacrificial Victim.

Speaking of gift giving. I already received some gifts from relatives, friends and loved ones and I also managed to be Santa Claus for a few friends. I still have undeliver gifts.I am also looking forward to our groups’party and exchange gifts on Thursday.

With so many things to gift with, most of us turn into a confused lot pondering over. Which gift would be appropriate? Which one is to be given to the near and dear ones and colleagues and…, well your head starts reeling.

We must also remember to thank the giver…for knowing us. Let them know that they are the greatest gift that they can ever give to anyone.  The time they spend to show us they care and love us means more than any material stuff that can ever purchase and give. From the bottom of my heart, thank you all, you know who you are.

Celebrate the Reason for the Season! Remember Christmas is about the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. 
Let’s celebrate it with the true meaning of Christmas, that it’s more than just packages and foods.

How about you, what are the gifts you have in mind? Ah yes, Christmas time is here once again. With the hustle and bustle that the holidays brings…let’s remember to keep it real, simple and stress free! 
 

Oversight

Celebrations

It was her supervisor’s birthday yesterday and last December 7 they surprised her with small party including only the team members. It was nice and very private party. They just ate the food they ordered and shared some personal views about anything under the sun.They had pasta, chicken lollipop and white forest.

Some of her friends are also celebrating something on their lives and she thought how ironic it is because at the same date she is also celebrating her heartache that happened years ago. She very well understood the heartache that time. It has been the longest period of her life that cripples her. She still remember that gut-wrenching, heart/body physically hurting, can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t–get-out-of-bed feeling that temporarily halted her life beyond repair. She is now a grown up but still remember the heartache that lingered on ocassions.

Heartache attacks everyone the exact same way. Eventually one gets over it and moves on but never quite unscathed. Every person etches the heart in some way, shape or form. In remembering that, she have realized how important it is to view any experiences not as a regret, but merely an  invaluable experience.

Never underestimate the power of being yourself. Stand tall and pat yourself on the back for being that person!

What happened to that girl who said that if life is a bitch she’ll be bitchier?  Oh crap! ha ha ha She forgot! Thanks for reminding her >:

Happy Birthdays to all birthday celebrants and Happy Anniversaries to all celebrating their anniversaries whether it is a wedding, hiring, heartache or whatever you are being reminded of the date. As long as you are all happy, we are also happy for you all!

Party Pilipinas

TGIF!!!

It was our annual company’s Christmas party. My second on the same department. We had a great time last night. This year, we didn’t want to just held it with the same where we work so we looked for a place where we can hold the party. Fortunately, with a very limited budget of 400 per head, we found  a very affordable place…just in front of our building, a former cinema turned into dancing studio. Not bad at  all. NO much effort, we just crossed the road.

We entitled our party as “Statement Shirt Party” so everybody’s has loosen up with their shirts and jeans. We had a good entertainment, simple food and simple prices. I was not so lucky last night I didn’t take home anything even a single mug.

Anyways, the important thing is that we enjoyed the event. We had a photo ops booth and guys enjoyed a little kick of alcohol even before the party started.

We also entertained ourselves reading the statement written to everyone’s shirts. Among the statements that caught my attention are the following:

Break Time

ADAN: Lord, bakit mo ginawa ang babae?
LORD: Para mahalin mo.
ADAN: Eh bakit mo sya ginawang tanga?
LORD: Para mahalin ka.

Tumataba ka na yata ha…
Bumibilog…
At…
Unti unting…
Naging mundo ko

Di na daw eto uso…
Hindi tayo tao, hindi tayo hayop…
Bagay tayo…

Eto na daw ang uso…
Hindi tayo tao, bagay tayo…
HAYUP ka lang…

Handling the animals of the corporate jungle

By Winifred Tan

Where there’s a group of people, there’s bound to be conflict. Biology dictates that we all think and work very differently from one another, and this difference surfaces especially prominently in the workplace, where a potpourri of diverse characters ranging from the easygoing to the dramatic to the over-fastidious are thrown together in close contact for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week, 250 business days a year.

Unlike the days of school, the workplace requires every individual to put aside his differences and work well with his fellow colleagues, supervisors, and subordinates in order to be productive. It is therefore imperative for you, as a member of a larger organisational matrix, to recognise what makes your co-workers tick.

To help you better understand the nuances of workplace behaviour and conflict resolution, we’ve put together a list of the top five difficult personalities that you’re likely to meet at work and how to best to deal with them.

1. The Bully

Although the days of playgrounds and elementary schools are long past, bullies do still exist, albeit in more covert forms. Workplace bullies tend to rely on psychological tactics of intimidation and humiliation to insult, threaten, ostracise and basically bulldoze their colleagues or subordinates. For instance, they will distort the truth or fabricate allegations of underperformance in order to discredit their target. Such bullies are difficult to handle because they often operate within the established rules of the company and out of sight of their superiors.

Battle the bully: Bullies thrive on hostility. They are loud, aggressive, persistent, and expect you to run away in fear or react in anger. As such, you should learn to stand up to them. Be clear and assertive when expressing your opinions, and do not let them interrupt you.  If they become openly aggressive, you should ask them to leave, or let them vent until they have run out of steam before expressing your views (supported with clear evidence) confidently. The earlier you confront the bully, the better — don’t wait till the bullying escalates into a crisis before reporting it to your manager or the HR executives.

2. The Gossip Mill

Every workplace has at least one gossipmonger. This resident tabloid always has “exclusive” news to share; no one is spared from his barbed words and the negative shadow he casts. It is difficult to pin him down because he takes the truth and manipulates it a little before spreading the word. Before you know it, the entire office will be rife with rumours about your latest office scandal or supposed attempts to influence the boss unfairly.

Nip gossip in the bud: The only way to deal with toxic behaviour like gossiping is to be direct. The next time the Gossip Mill swings by for some catch-up time, inform him politely but firmly that you are not interested in engaging in harmful conversations about other people. Ignore him if he persists in his efforts. Most companies practise open communication and have a zero-tolerance policy towards gossip, so remind yourself that if you’re ever unhappy with any aspect of your work, you should be forthright and discuss it through the appropriate channels.

3. The Chronic Attention Seeker

The Chronic Attention Seeker likes to be seen and heard. That doesn’t seem too bad, until you realise that he is also taking credit — even when it’s not due — for successful projects and failing to acknowledge the help he received from others. Next thing you know, he’s been promoted twice while you’re still stuck in the same old career rut. Did you mention “unfair”?

Checkmate: The first time the Chronic Attention Seeker steals credit for your work, consider it a genuine mistake and notify him to let others know about your contribution. If he doesn’t do so, or he repeats his mistake, notify your supervisor and colleagues so that they can recognise your achievements fairly. Make sure you carefully document all the instructions, correspondence and task plans as evidence to back up your claims. Then in future, unless you’re specifically assigned to work with the Chronic Attention Seeker, refuse to help him out again.

4. The Control Freak

If there’s anyone who can make Attila the Hun look like Mahatma Gandhi, it’s the Control Freak. The Control Freak boss doesn’t just want to know what you’re doing; he needs to know what you’re thinking, every second of the day. To him, employees are robots, best suited for following his instructions blindly down to the very last detail. Micro-managing is a must for He-who-is-deathly-afraid-of-failure.

Take a chill pill: Do not take the Control Freak’s criticism personally or attempt to justify his control over you. Instead, explain rationally to him why his dictatorial streak is counter-productive. Offer suggestions on what he should do, and give him the chance to control his compulsive behaviour. Stand your ground and be prepared to walk away if he fails to change for the better.

5. The Sniper

Snipers are arguably the most annoying personality to deal with in the workplace. Like backstabbers, they attack their target anonymously, making petulant remarks and insults disguised as compliments in an attempt to discredit their target. What’s worse, some snipers have a fondness for giving backhanded compliments during meetings or in public settings, making it that much harder for the target to determine their true intentions.

It’s time to snap: Unfortunately, there’s no other way to deal with snipers apart from taking a more aggressive stance, especially if you’ve reached the end of your temper. That is not to say you should snipe back — it only makes you look unprofessional and encourages the sniper to continue in his destructive behaviour — but you should definitely snap back and show that you’re no pushover. Don’t be afraid to confront the Sniper about his jabs; just do so in private and be quick and concise about your message, “Yesterday you called attention to my being late to the meeting and suggested that I’m given preferential treatment. Please don’t do that again.” Alternatively, if you’re in a public setting, camouflage the situation by addressing the other parties present, “I apologise for being late as I was on the phone with an important client.” Remember, the Sniper is not that difficult to deal with: force him out in the open, highlight his poisonous actions, and pounce hard to make him accountable for them.

Conclusion

Dealing with difficult personalities is an acquired skillset that can only be honed through experience. Even though workplace conflicts can really wear you down emotionally and physically, it is nevertheless important to learn how to manage them appropriately, because unresolved conflict can escalate and lead to distrust, miscommunication, increased stress, reduced creative collaboration, and ultimately, failure.

As a general rule of thumb, don’t try to beat these difficult personalities at their own game. Employ as much tact and diplomacy as possible, and eventually you will be able to cultivate long-lasting and healthy relationships in the workplace.

Bitches and Jerks

We recently had a re-organization and it affects the function of our heads. So we were asking ourselves…Who is the better boss….male (and I mean a real guy! no in between here guys) or female? Sensible, respectful, and understanding: These are the traits associates say we look for and admire in a boss. So does it matter whether the boss is male or female? Don’t get me wrong here, nowadays both men and women have a fighting chance. Sometimes men can be  too tough and straight and women can be too kind and thoughtful.

If you are going to ask me, I will prefer real men for sure, I have had past jobs in my lifetime that I had female, male and not so male bosses. And to be honest women are almost the worse. Women (and those pretenting to be male) bosses are too controlling in my opinion, they would like to have your ideas but in the end they always want things to do in their way. Also with women you gotta be more careful if you want to joke around and talk while working. Men are much more relaxed, obviously they want results and they check that you are doing things well. But for the most part men bosses are much less controlling, they let you do things your own way,they are easy to joke around too and the workiing environment  seems to be more relaxed, a male boss will must likely let you talk while at work. etc. Women on the other hand sometimes be irrational and persistent because they are afraid that their authority will  be questioned if they don’t stand to their initial point of view. It goes with in between gender too.

But at the end, it doesn’t depend on your gender it depends on your leadership skills, work ethic, and ability to deal with changes.  Bottom line: If you want to be the best boss, or work for the best, put stereotypes aside and start aggressively cultivating your own work character. But really, some work personality traits are worse with women and those like to be women

What goes in, goes out!!

Im not the kind of person who talks a lot to anybody I dont really know. But if your anything like me, sometimes I have to catch myself, because i’ll go on and on talking to a friend, loved ones or relatives about anything important or rambling about something un-important. If we really think about what comes out of our mouth, we’d be surprised. We should start using our mouth beneficial on everyone’s behalf.

We never know who we will meet that might take what we say to the next level. Many people who we think would have no interest might surprise us.  The more open we are with what we do,  the faster  people will take notice. .

What comes out of your mouth is what is in your heart.
What you send into the world is what is in your heart.

You can’t give joy when you are sad. You can’t give kindness when you feel hurt.
You can’t love when you are full of hate.

You can’t hide the truth of your heart from anyone who knows you.
The clerk you smile at and joke with may think you are a courteous and funny guy.
Spend ten minutes with anyone, though, and you will see what they are inside.

If they hurt, they leak tears. If they are peaceful, they spread smiles.
If they love and are loved they will share it with you.
If they are filled with hate and pain, they share that with you, too.
It’s easy to spread hate, or hurt, it’s as catching as the flu.

Dream On

The best things in life are free….hugs, smiles, friends, kisses, family, sleep, love, laughter and good memories. I had my share of free best things last night - I had free dinner, free popcorn, free drinks, free photo ops and free movie pass for Breaking Dawn. What else can I ask for? Who were my sponsors? My siblings….I took advantage of it, it happens only once in a year . Can’t wait  for another one.

In this life we’re also free to dream whatever we want to. It’s always nice to dream and think up many wonderful things in our mind that we wish we could have or what we wish could happen. Even though, we know in our hearts that sometimes it will never happen. It isn’t easy facing reality and its harsh ways. That’s life.

Dream Big, It’s free, it is a different perspective on allowing yourself to dream, even if you think you may not be deserving it!

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. -  Harriet Tubma”

Let’s keep on dreaming. We can do it anytime..anywhere. It’s free everywhere. Anyway, its a free country

Its time of the year again

There can be no denying that we are indeed approaching that magical time of year, the Christmas season.  The holiday season is a busy one, what with the family obligations, gifts, decorations, parties everywhere and making sure everybody’s bellies stay full. And then of course there is the shopping. Credit card companies absolutely love the month of December. Just make sure you avoid pitfalls and stay on top of your holiday spending. Make most wonderful time of the year and not just the most expensive.

My Z’s everywhere

I woke up kind of late yesterday morning only to remember that I would be having my second shot of anti hepa vaccine. I lazed around the house for an hour or so trying to decide if I wanted to go. I was thinking that it was rather far trip just for a vaccine shot. If I can arrange for its pick up and have it injected by my cousin, it will save me time. Finally I got off from our chair and took a bath.

It was rather warm ride and walk from and to the MRT. I was holding my umbrella and wearing my shades. I stopped at the convenience store along the way and bought 1 liter juice with so much ice and drink it while walking. I just spent less than 5 minutes to have my shot.

I browsed around the mall and had my brunch before riding a bus that will take me to another mall to buy something. Then went to a grocery to have our weekly grocery. It was rather early. I visited the nearby posh bakeshop that I have been hearing has some delicious cakes and pastries. I curiously studied their items then crossed to the church in front without buying anything. There was a wedding going on so I stayed at the Adoration Chapel while waiting for the wedding to end and the anticipated mass to start. The aircon was in full blast and it was so quiet. There were only 3 persons inside. I pick up the pillow at the entrance and put it at the back of my chair. I got the novena prayer from my bag and started to read. After finishing the first page, I could not read anymore. I didnt bring my eyeglasses so I closed my eyes and started to pray. I dont know if I really started to pray because the next thing I know I was like woke up from sleep. I looked around, it was only me inside the chapel. I noticed also the wedding almost finish. I stayed inside for another 15 minutes then stood up and lighted candles beside the chapel.

That’s very bad of me!? That was exactly how my day goes yesterday. But sleeping in Adoration Chapel was not intentional.

A B ’s Story

Live a great life despite the fact that life is difficult. Everybody wants to be happy in life.  We all want to live a perfect life. We want that great job or a successful business. We want to be married to Mr. Right or Ms Perfect. We want to have great kids. We want to have friends that stick by us come rain or shine. We want to be able to have all the material things life has to offer and have all our problems just disappear.

Let me tell you a story:

She is 2nd to the youngest among 3 children, all girls. Said she was over exposed and a little aggresive when she was still a teen-ager, that was why she got pregnant before she turned 18. She continued her schooling while taking care of her baby boy. She chose the night shift to avoid the intrigue brought by her being a teenage and single mother. She graduated after 5 years and eventually got married to the father of her son. A year after their 2nd son was born, they separated.

Said she was already feeling it and knew what was coming. Her husband walk away from her to chose to be with their common friend. This common friend was the one who introduced to her to her husband. The husband and the common friend had a child and after a few years, she learned that they also separated. The common friend after so many years that she prefers another girl, she is a lesbian and she is now living with her partner together with her child.

Back to my subject, after 3 years, she also found her partner 10 years her junior. They had 2 children, another boy and a girl. They are now living happily, and trying to meet the ends. She is a banker while her partner is driving their own colorum FX plying from Malabon to Manila and vise versa. It is only one trip to Manila in the morning and also one trip to Malabon in the afternoon. In between, her partner is the one taking care of their home and children, although they have a housemaid.

She still has a naughty side. She would tell me that she is a little depressed. Her sexlife is on its downhill sometimes and I wouldnt know what to say except that maybe they have many things in mind that time. She confessed that she feels that its her hottest at this time of her life and her partner is on the other hand on its downtime because his mind wants it but his body no longer act on it. We just laughed it off.

She has led a very colorful life. Her parents also separated when she was in high school. Her mother never got married and her father is now abroad with his own family. She has now has a stepbrother with the same age as her eldest son. Her parents still friends and they constantly keeping their communications. Her father also regularly helping them out especially on the schooling of her children.

That is one of the beautiful things about life. You can make your life better. You have total  responsibility for what you do and how you respond to the fact that life is hard. As the now cliché saying goes: “If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.”

Our Doggie days

I was at the mall yesterday waiting for my sister. I waited at the pet shop and admired the dogs. It  made me think the last dog that we had when I was still in college. We had a dog, sort of askal - asong kalye.

My brother used to personally take care of him and we named it “Kumag”.  We might say that Kumag and my brother were pathologically bonded. Kumag was like a member of the household, watching TV with us on our 2nd floor then will go downstairs on his place when it was time to sleep. Our neighbors were so frightened with him as he  always barked loudly whenever he smells or sees somebody who did not belong to the household. 

My sister had a night schooling then at our province and she would be home around 10pm. Her school was about a kilometer away from our home and Kumag would always waited for her 2 blocks away from our home. Friends of my sister would always joked around whenever they sees Kumag waiting, they would say “Ayan na ang sundo mo”. My sister and Kumag would be walking home together every night after her school.  We also talked to Kumag like a human being and he seemed to understand us.

After a while, my father decided to give Kumag to his friends due to his behaviour that when he encountered un-familiar faces, he not only barks but bite that person. My brother was crying when it was time for Kumag to transfer home.  We didnt really want to give him away. Until now, we did not replaced Kumag. He always brought happy memories to the household stories. 

Somebody says, most all of our relationship with our dog is emotional. Dogs draw us to them. There’s that doggie breath we remember when they were puppies, their total cuteness – not to mention they were so warm and cuddly as dogs and are still.  It’s the whole package really! We feel like our dogs are very sensitive to our feelings.  We pick up on this almost immediately.  Come to think of  it, if this sensitivity were not there, we probably wouldn’t have them as pets.